How Do You Know What Your Superpower Is?
One of the biggest buzz words of the last year or two is SUPERPOWER!
Everyone is asking people what their superpower is and many of us can't answer the question. Especially those of us with ADHD. Because of the challenges we have with some of the day to day stuff, we tend to feel incompetent in so many areas that we discount the areas we excel with as nothing, or no better than anyone else.
The truth is, because of the way our brains are wired, we do excel at quite a bit. Most notably we are ideas people, innovators and this world would not be advancing at the pace that it is without innovators who are dreaming up the impossible and making it happen every day.
Why is this important? Because what is innate to us, lights us up and energized us so we can do it for hours on end. What energizes us, is easy for us to do. And what's easy for us to do, we can be consistent with. And what we are consistent with, we can give us great success.
Imagine being able to do work that leverages your strengths all the time, instead of struggling day to day trying to get better at what we're not good at, or worse, what we hate to do?
For me, I am absolutely an ideas person, and that's also a challenge right? We jump from idea to idea to idea without really accomplishing any of them. People call it Shiny Object Syndrome. But what we should be looking for is what's unique to us.
A good indicator is what do people come to you with questions or asking advice about. When I sat down to think about it I really couldn't come up with anything. Except maybe software? I'm amazing at Microsoft Excel, and always have people reaching out with how to do something with Excel or some other basic office software. But is that it??
So I started asking people who knew me well what they thought my strengths were. It's amazing what you learn about yourself when you do that, and each and every time my reaction was "really??".
One told me I was a great relationships person, that it didn't matter if it was the CEO or the cleaning lady, I knew everyone, their names, their stories. I just thought I like people so I talk to people LOL.
I then asked another friend and coworker about my strengths and she responded that I was very intuitive, that I seemed to know what to do or say when someone was in need. 2 hours later I had a wonderful conversation with a total stranger who thanked me and said that I couldn't know just how much I had just helped him. Because my friend and I were talking about my strengths just earlier in the day it was fresh in my mind and I was actually able to see what she meant as it was happening. It made my day, and I knew that I LOVE helping people.
Not long after I took the Clifton StrengthsFinder assessment (now called CliftonStrenths). It's a quick assessment, about 28 questions, and it's amazing what you learn about yourself, and it's very individualized (the odds of someone else have the same 5 themes (of 34 themes) in the same order is 1 in 33 million).
My top 5 are:
Maximizer: They seek to transform something strong into something superb.
Adaptability: They prefer to “go with the flow.” They tend to be “now” people who take things as they come and discover the future one day at a time.
Ideation: People who are especially talented in the Ideation theme are fascinated by ideas. They are able to find connections between seemingly disparate phenomena.
Positivity: They have an enthusiasm that is contagious. They are upbeat and can get others excited about what they are going to do.
Communication: They generally find it easy to put their thoughts into words. They are good conversationalists and presenters.
I look at this and it's a perfect portrait of me. I'm easy going and absolutely just go with the flow, not much gets to me, so positivity is me always looking for a silver lining. love coming up with ideas, making them better, and if they can help people, then I'm totally energized.
So I'm back to helping people. But is that really a strength? I didn't think so, but it has to come from somewhere. My husband and I were recently having dinner at the local pub. My hubby was watching sports on the many screens and I was watching and elderly man across the bar. He just sat, by himself, just looking around, enjoying a pint. Then another. Then he ordered a meal. When the bartender (who was our neighbor) came over so we could pay our bill, I asked if he would put that gentleman's orders on our tab.
Later in the car my husband said "you have such a big heart". I was completely caught off guard. Really? He asked me how I couldn't know that about myself. I guess I just never thought about it. I just do what anyone would do, he responded "I never would have thought to do that, but you always do. You always want the best for others".
Well, and there it was, the strength that drives me is my heart. I do really want the best for others, and if I can help in any tiny way, I want to do that.
Do you know your strengths?
That's it for now, so go take some action and create your incredible life, I’m here to help and so is everyone in the My ADHD Entrepreneur Life Facebook group! Just let us know. Make sure to say hello and introduce yourself.